How To Discipline Children
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Prov 22:6
Child discipline is all about being firm and consistent.
It is amazing how many of us are not in agreement with ourselves - meaning we change our minds frequently
This often means in turn that we are neither steady nor reliable - two qualities our children should be able to trust in their parents. Consistency is very hard to achieve sometimes:
Often when we need to be consistent the most is when we find it most difficult. This is because it takes energy to be consistent.
Discipline is about teaching the right way to do things. Remember, relationship should never be at stake. Your child should still feel loved even when you need to carry out discipline. A warm responsive parent such as the authoritative style parent will be able to bring correction but be responsive to the child.
Children will make mistakes, it is part of maturing and taking risks in life. They learn best within an environment of love which includes discipline. Setting limits and boundaries helps children to understand and learn about internal government. This internal government stops us going out and killing, stealing, and hurting others.
Head off bad behavior if you can.
Try to notice when your child is behaving and doing things well. Say thank you when they have helped you to do something as well.
Spend a bit of quality time with your children. Sometimes children are naughty in order to get some attention, negative or not.
Always make sure your child understands what you require of them. If you are asking them to do something, do so clearly and make sure that they have both heard and understood.
For young children distraction may do the trick especially if you act fast.
Always be clear when an enjoyed activity will finish to prevent bad behavior. For instance: We are leaving the park in 5 minutes. If needed do 3 minute warnings then 1 minute.
How to discipline children - using consequences
Setting clear limits and boundaries is our job as parents until our children develop good internal government. Unless we set these for our children they will not know how to behave.
Children learn best by having consequences to their actions, good and bad.
If you use consequences you must be consistent at carrying them out, this takes energy and time. If you don't carry out what you say your children will constantly push you and you will constantly be yelling or nagging.
Use consequences that are linked to the bad behavior, this way, it is not simply about being punished, but being taught about a better way to do things.
Here are some examples:
How to discipline children - steps to take
How to discipline children - time out!
Time out can work really well for children
What you do is: